Ooh! It’s so tempting to start this post with some reference to the line: “you only get one chance to make a first impression,” but I don’t want to because it’s way too obvious. I kind of did just use it, though, didn’t I? The point is that, whether it’s right or wrong, people are judged on first impressions, so you want to make it good. Here are some tips for coming across as likeable:
1. Make eye contact:
Making eye contact is really the very first connection you make with someone, before you even speak. So meet them in the eye and show you’re into making the connection.
Give a real smile and let the other person know you’re happy to meet him or her.
3. Speak clearly:
Making yourself easily understood is important, so speak clearly in a normal volume. Lots of people have a tendency to speak quickly when they’re nervous, so be careful about that, too.
4. Use names:
You can start by saying “Hello, Sara!” instead of just a generic hello. Using the other person’s name is a small personal gesture that goes a long way.
5. Dress well:
You don’t have to get dressed up, but your clothes do need to be clean and neat to make a good impression. Also make sure what you wear is appropriate to the situation.
6. Remember body language:
Body language may actually be more important than what you say. Stand up straight, keep your shoulders back, and give a firm handshake.
7. Ask questions:
Don’t give the third degree, but asking questions is a way of connecting and showing you’re interested in the other person.
8. Have a positive attitude:
No one need extra negativity, so be careful to project a positive attitude and you’ll be way more likeable.
9. Make small talk:
Ahh- the art of conversation! For some people this is second nature and very comfortable, while for others it’s pure torture! If small talk is hard for you, have topics prepared, and practice with a good friend. It becomes easier the more you do it.
10. Find a common bond:
Again, it’s about connecting. If you’re talking to another mom at your kids’s school you have lots in common. Other interests you might share with someone else include TV, books, food, or sports. If all else fails, there’s always the weather!
11. Give a compliment:
Everyone likes a compliment, and it’s a nice way to start off a new relationship.
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